husband wants to spend every weekend with his family

. This is how children are taught. Because we spent that time communicating (and other stuff, but you dont need to know) it worked perfectly for us. He needs a lot of family time, you need a lot of just-the-two-of-you time. New readers, welcome to Dear Wendy, a relationship advice blog. Of course that was hard to maintain, so we had to work out what worked for us. ForeverYoung January 20, 2012, 8:49 am. This went on for two and a half years, and after that we moved in together. Look at the situation from everyones position. So make it clear to them in advance that they cannot come unannounced, that you cannot go to their place every weekend, and if you want to celebrate a holiday yourself, that is your business. Say, what if I only come to your parents one weekend a month, and you only go 2-3? That way you get some weekend time alone with him and you only go over there once a month. Communication is always the basis of solving any problem. I think you guys need to slow this relationship down quite a bit, you guys are going full speed ahead, when you should really just be enjoying the very begining of your relationship together. Should I Ask Out My Hot Massage Therapist?, When Do You Know Its Time to Break Up With Someone?, My Daughter is Trying to Ruin My Relationship. Play frisbee in the park! if it works for you, thats all that matters. Will you LWs simply never learn? Agreed, there is too much time spent sitting on the couch in this letter. Im also close to my family, however, I never make my boyfriend feel left out and I always make him feel that he is the priority. GatorGirl Im nearly at my wits end because its causing me to get upset with him over fairly trivial things. January 20, 2012, 9:10 am. Wow its creepy how similar this is to my ex boyfriend! for example, before moving in if you dont have a conversation about how bills are paid, do you just assume that one of you will pay certain ones. Ill add that another strategy you could try if those mentioned dont work is to simply spend less time at his parents house yourself. IN both matters (money and going to his parents), please dont be afraid to make your voice heard!! Instead of alienating him, encourage him.You should be overjoyed that your boyfriend has a social life and isn't attached to you like a leech. If Bitter Gay Mark disagrees with me, Ill reconsider. Maybe you can offer to make dinner or get tickets to a play or museum show. What matters is how his behavior and how his lifestyle make you feel. WebTherefore, his wife IS attending family functions on the weekends. There is absolutely nothing wrong with her wanting him to spend more time with her. So the last month theyve seen his family every weekend? Am I the only person that is truly freightened by this? Now that they are obviously not, it is definitely time for some conversation. If you feel like youre not the priority, then you almost certainly arent. You do like to see people you love, right? What are the main reasons why he behaves like that: A guilty conscience makes your husband go to his family every weekend. but you have to talk to him about it. muchachaenlaventana Then offer a compromise. Its when a relationship switches from the wooing phase to the were together phase. And if he doesnt, then thats a big red flag. Different strokes for different folks. SpaceySteph I think I need more info. ReginaRey Do people really just walk around with their heads in the sand all day? LW you seem a lot more independant than you BF, and I feel like this is just the begining of you feeling like this, so if you havent yet just have a plan to move out if things arent working out. Laura Hope My husband and I will go to a public driving range and a large bucket is $9. What way would you not want it to be? My family lives a 45 mins train ride out of Grand Central (not including hopping a cab or the subway to get to GCT- and then the ride to their place once we get off the train) and if I made my boyfriend go with me once a week to see them he would be less than thrilled. remember, its only been 3 weeks since you moved in. But according to the LW, they dont have anything else to do.. Well, thats separate problem. But she doesnt seem to mind it. Theres no need for anyone to take offense if others would have an opinion that something that pertains to you is abnormal. Not normal. Although, if this has been a pattern for him & its all he knows,& him & his family think its completely normal, the chance of getting him to acknowledge there is an issue is very slim. I just dont understand this concept. Like I said before, I get along great with them and dont mind visiting them, but I also need privacy and a chance for my boyfriend and me to have a separate life from them. WebHere are potential reasons why your husband goes out every weekend without you. LolaBeans Its sad that we put our heads in the sand, but who wants to really start over, by themselves, when your husband or wife of however many years has been cheating on you. I know how he feels about adoption because he shared his feelings on it during a discussion I started simply saying someday Id love to adopt and really hope it will happen. Just over coffee, no contracts or anything. I agree that some more information about the timeline would be helpful. ReginaRey Its a worldwide treasure hunt. ForeverYoung All this to say: LW, your BF would annoy the shit out of me too. TaraMonster Am I being unreasonable for not wanting to go to his parents house every weekend? allathian But whatever you do, LW, dont make this some kind of Choose them or me test. Not just loving-tight, but codependent-tight. They are content with the status quo. Yeah, but every weekend? November 29, 2019, 5:49 pm, Angelique He values his family and wants to spend his free time with them (and you). Maybe pick out a day once a weekend which is just couples time (hate the term date night). Starting over! If the situation is even more complicated, for example, if his parents are old or his siblings have problems, your husband will feel even more guilty for leaving them. Just the fact that his mom is dropping by unannounced makes me uncomfortable, considering the current state of the world. Now he plans for you two to live as close to them as possible. This is for your husband to do, but you have to let him know. allathian My parents live far too and it sucks that I cant drop in on them from time to time, that I have to plan a whole vacation just to see them and cram a lot into one tiny weekend. Personally, I would give him an ultimatumtherapy or you need to move on and find someone whos actually emotionally available. This is especially important ifhis parents dont respect boundaries. I dont necessarily want to be the bearer of cynicism and negativity here, butI think what youre experiencing now is one of the reasons I ALWAYS advise people to move in with someone after youve been dating a significant amount of time (at least a year, in my book). If she is like lets do XYZ and he says no, lets sit at momsyeah thats a little off. I think you are already there, and having a great relationship *except for this one huge thing I want to change about that person* isnt the same as simply have a great relationship. Its different than what youre used to, sure, and its maybe not something you would do yourself. I have to say, I kind of feel like LW jumped the gun on this one. Declining to go really shouldnt require an explanation, but if he really needs one just say its a combination of the expense, that youve seen them more often than your own parents, and that you simply have other things you want to do this weekend. I guess I just dont get why this is dysfunctional exactly. Sometimes Bassanio feels kind of bad when his parents do this, but I just point out that they dont mean that hes the worst son if he doesnt do something and that its ok to say no. It is clear that his family comes first, and your family and your wishes are less important to him. Go to a zoo! It took both of us a while to cut that back to what it is now, first it moved to one set of parents each weekend so wed alternate, and then down to every couple weeks. She kept trying to change it and regularly fights with him about it. In all fairness- he probably has no idea this Irks LW so much. In fact toward the end, when I was tired of the distance and really pushing for us to have a normal weekend together, he started accusing me of trying to take him away from his family (nvm the fact that in the four years prior to our relationship when he was away at college, he would come home and visit his family once a semester but then he started dating me and coming home every other weekend). Anyway, LW, I think that first of all, youre a little premature in worrying about this to the point of writing to DWjust talk to your bf about it. January 20, 2012, 11:17 am. I had to learn that people mean different things by it. The finance issue, however, would bother me more at this point. If its something that you just cant some to terms with, than it may just be an incompatibility that you two cant overcome. Added to that it already is a large issue (for you), because you are writing in to an advice column about it. lets_be_honest I would totally be cool with buying a compound and having my family and Peters family live on it in harmony with us. January 20, 2012, 5:36 pm. Well. True enough, Flake. I see someone who wants to maximize the amount of time he spends with people he cares about, and I get not caring if its the LWs couch or his parents couch, hence the activity suggestions. They go to see one of their families every weekend or see both some weekends, and its something they both agree on. The evening must be spent together as well? As my Irish/Italian grandmother used to say Begin as you mean to go on., rangerchic June 18, 2014, 12:55 pm. NOt exactly like you put it, but yes I believe there are certain things (finances mostly) that def have to be discussed prior to moving in with your SO. And am going to go to the bathroom, stick my head up my ass, sign lulabyes and probably have quite a splendid day. Ditto to the making plans paragraph. I hate to say it, but I dont think your boyfriend or his parents (especially his parents) are going to change. June 18, 2014, 12:24 pm. The LW needs to talk to her boyfriend about how his actions make her feel. While he enjoys his sweet nostalgia and thinks abouthow good things used to be, you sit at home and wonder if you can handle such issues with such an immature husband. We just got thru the holidays. LW has already talked to bf and this hasnt worked. husband goes to his parents every weekend. And I dont think it is so wrong to assume that things will not change drastically once you move in together. Laura Hope, I totally agree with you. What I am saying that the best time to discuss your spending habits is not when the bill is already on the table, or you dont discuss birth control when you are both naked and about to have sex. While there is nothing wrong with being close with your family, it becomes a problem when you prioritize your family of origin over your significant other. This is something about him that will likely never change. I like to relax at home. By the time While you want to spend quality time together, rest, and go to the cinema or a restaurant, he needs to be surrounded by people. Some things you may never known until you move in together. If he lived in town permanently and this was happening every night, I think its a different story but we are talking sporadic weekends over a 2 season period. If so thats just about the worst reason in existence for moving in with a boyfriend. I have been marriend two my husband for five years. He may feel he is in a much better position than his family and feels sorry for them. January 20, 2012, 7:40 pm. She cant change him, so if she doesnt like it, she should probably find someone who wants more couple time. Explore a new neighborhood or close-by town? Im not saying its come to that yet, but Im suggesting the LW force her bf to choose if he wont honor her wish to stay home once in a while. but no one thought anything of it if someone had other plans or didnt come for a few weeks. If that doesnt work if he wont set aside some time for the two of you, or if you need more distance from his family than hes willing or able to manage, then Im afraid its MOA time. January 20, 2012, 10:57 am. Finally, I would pacify your BF by saying that once a month the parents should come to the city and visit you. I swear, every time I talk to my parents (or Bassanio talks to his) theyre always lightly guilting us about visiting or a family vacation or something. When they were planning on adopting, I told her that if this is an issue to where she is left with baby a huge amount of time and resents him for it, its not going to be pretty. In being present in any matters their adult children bring to them, they reassert their power and superior knowledge. I consider myself to have a pretty close relationship with my own family, but they live in another state, and I really dont require seeing them more than once every 6 weeks or even being in touch more than every couple of days. I think Ill sit this one out. Simple. Just remember how he didnt want tomove out of his parents house. But I dont automatically think that they have some huge communication problem because of this one issue. January 20, 2012, 9:32 am, Actually, Im with you on the finance thing. Id ask if he plans on making that a routinemaybe one of his parents is sick and he hasnt told her? This may seem obvious, but its so easy to forget and feel bad. Of course Im describing a worse-case scenario, but think of what feels right for YOU as far as family interaction & seek that out. Maybe a couple times a week for dinner. Who keeps the dog? It means they have compatibility issues they need to figure out or they need to break up. Posted on Last updated: December 26, 2022. No, not necessarily. I have a friend whose husband is like this. Maybe he feels that since he sees the gf all week now, he should spend weekends with his family. ), you also like using your weekends to relax and enjoy the city in a way you dont get a chance to do during the busy week. Hell appreciate her more if she starts acting a little more independently. Its just a fact of life moving in together makes it much more difficult to break up. You will know at that point whether or not it was a mistake to move in with him. Problem it was a constant struggle for almost 5 years because when Id drive to see him, wed get alone time, but of course i had to drive there. Thats what I wondered why does she have to go with every weekend? WebGoing every weekend with a 6 hour drive is a lot, but if he feels like thats what he wants to do then he should. The LW left out the most significant part of the story which makes it pretty tough for outsiders to offer any real help. NEWSFLASH: This is WHO he is. I am close with my family and, if they lived in the same city as me, yeah, Id probably want to see them at least once a week. Or go to batting cages. Lindsay My dad did this too, until he met his fiance and she moved in with him. Dysfunctional that he wants to spend time (a lot, Ill give you that) with his family? Schedule some girls' nights out. On the weekends he spends at He even startedtalking badly about your family, and you feel he wants to distance you from them. ele4phant I think that time alone is essential to the health of any relationship. To move in before youve even had time to vet the relationship is, in my opinion, risky. From that, I can either follow blindly and accept whatever consequences arise form our different spending styles, or, if it is a deal breaker for me, I move. Thatll probably shut them up. how do we divide furniture? Honestly, if she came back here and said she suggests things to do, or frames her conversations with boyfriend differently, I would have a different response. Or boys night out, so I can stay home and watch the silly teen girl movies like Easy A or Clueless. every place has natural wonders. spending evenings with his parents is one thing but choosing to sleep over there when they are literally down the street seems bizarre unless they are elderly and he is worried about them. When you find that you and your partner spend most of your time together sitting on the couch watching TV or scrolling on your phone, a conversation most likely For example, my SO knows I would love to adopt one day. June 18, 2014, 2:20 pm. Laura Hope Its even understandable to spend every weekend with them if someone is terminally ill (or some other similarly serious circumstance). A lot to balancenot a lot of time spent with the fam. I absolutely love his family to death, but there are some boundary issues. If you have a relationship/dating question I can help answer, you can send me your letters at wendy@dearwendy.com. Read some of the most popular Dear Wendy posts here. Tell him that you feel neglected and that it hurts that you never spend weekends together. Im super indepedent though, and I coudlnt imagine spending all of my free time with one person. Francine It showed up in the wrong spot for some reason. I can see it both ways. Its not only a blow to your self esteem but also in how you pick your mate overall. And would you make someone feel bad because they have something else to do? My friends personalities changed drastically bitter, enraged, drug and booze binges, even suicidal ideation because losing Mommy destroyed them. I really would like to know if this LW is asking to actually do something with her boyfriend and hes flat out refusing. So many people spend a ton of time with family. First, they have to lead partners to interact with each other in a positive way. I realize going every weekend to his parents house is a little extreme, but remember too that its not just you anymore. If not, you need to sort this out. Not we have to stay home the whole weekend, but how about we visit your parents on Saturday afternoon and then go have dinner and see a movie Saturday night. Tell him youre staying home three weekends out of four (which is completely reasonable) and hes welcome to stay with you or hes free to go see his parents, but you live in the city because you like the urban life and the weekend is your time to enjoy that life. bluesunday Other things (chores etc) can be discussed as you go along. As was said before, while you are dating you should be attempting to find out as much info as possible. If theyve only been living together 3 weeks how is spending every weekend at his parents excessive? Youve already talked to your boyfriend about your feelings and he doesnt think hes doing anything weird. The thing is, whether or not his behavior is weird is irrelevant. My husband just kind of talks to his whenever and really only sees them on holidays. When my husband and I got together, he was working a 4-hour drive from me and wed only see each other on weekends and vacations. Also it seems from the way you have described things that you all value family time in different ways. Alone time doesnt have to be at home (even if its sex wink wink), and if youre not there, they cant drop by! Occasionally, this is fine with me and I understand Im not the only person hes away from while hes gone. which i think is what youre saying. everyone just has a different approach to their relationship. Copyright 2023 Dear Wendy. barf. I can almost sense the resentment growing Definitely should talk this over rather sooner then later. You dont want to talk about important issues with a SO so that you can pretend moving in together is a great idea because you dont know any better because you have SPECIFICALLY chosen not to know about better? i think you are more direct than a lot of people and maybe more communicative. Read some of the most popular Dear Wendy posts here. I was thinking the same thing. ReginaRey CottonTheCuteDog I love girls night out. When there is no holiday, they decide to have a BBQ in the backyard, and of course, they invite too many people to that event. Bklyn Grl . Well, I guess that frame of mind is just not one Im personally willing to take. But moving in together may also make you slack on spending time with your own friends and hobbies. Er, the mom will find a reason drop by the LWs place. January 20, 2012, 11:43 am. Hes going to choose you. ele4phant It always strikes me as odd when people write letters before even trying to work it out on their own. artsielady. I have friends who are engaged and live together. Like, I just went to The Niagara falls of Pennsylvania it was no Niagara but a nice day trip. Tell him youre staying home this weekend. You want to avoid jumping to conclusions and coming off as the bad guy. GatorGirl Long story short even though we saw each other almost every weekend for 4.5 straight years, not once did he agree to this. Sometimes I think that theres something that happens around the 3-6 month mark in most relationships. I think the LW is saying shes being guilted, by the parents and the boyfriend. January 20, 2012, 9:28 am. Spend most of their spare time with Mom, and significant others take a backseat. Because the simple fact that you are moving in together means things will not just continue as they are. She does go with him on occasion, but it is something that is always an issue between them. Lets find out why he behaves like that and offer tips on what you should do. He feels guilty for leaving them, feels comfortable with them, or runs away from some problems he has with you. Occasionally, this is fine with me and I understand Im not the only person Do something small to build trust, and then your relationship will slowly but surely flourish. He lived 4.5 hours away. I base this on the LWs statement that one or the other tries to make her feel guilty for not wanting to spend every weekend with the parents. I would plan some things. I think that, though you try to play it off as not a big deal, you are a little jealous/sad that your boyfriends parents live close and yours live far away. They live in a suburb of New York, where we live, and weve somehow gotten into a routine of spending significant amounts of time at their house nearly every weekend. January 20, 2012, 11:06 am. June 18, 2014, 9:59 am, Haha, I think this is quite extreme. 5. Im 99% sure hell be fine with this, unless theres something going on with his family that you dont know about. says that maybe he needs to transition from one house to the next, seeing as its only been three weeks. His family is about a 3 hour drive away from us while mine From unexpected work obligations on the weekend to sudden business travel demands, one partners professional goals and ambitions can impose stress on a I think the issue is that you just need to communicate. It is soooooooo dangerous to do that. Some people are just like that and you have to try not to take it personally. That said, I think the LW should just talk to her boyfriend. That would be great if your husband didnt spend every weekend with his family instead of you. You know how it usually goes, on weekdays, you and your husband work, and you have a little time for yourself. Either way, needs to be talked about, but not insurmountable. Thats a long ass time at home, no? No, spending 1 or 2 weekends with the parents or your boyfriends isnt that many, but it is, if you dont get to see your boyfriend at all in between these times. When I lived in Paris my host siblings were like that. You know what will happen when you make him choose between spending every single weekend in the suburbs with his parents or three weekends a month in the city with you? If he wants to visit his parents for dinner once or twice a week, his wife should be accompanying him. Finally my sister was like, every time you think you jokingly say please move back home, I feel like crap. You are certainly not happy when unannounced visitors visit you, and you have a lot of work to do. June 18, 2014, 11:03 am. His lack of action in making his partner a top priority in his life because he prefers spending time with his parents is abnormal. Some people are just family people, and want to spend a TON of time with their parents/siblings/etc. January 20, 2012, 9:37 am. Just because I didnt want to start over again. Theres also always a cold beer in the freeze. They were dating, they were both happy, so I think they both assumed that thinks will be the same once they move in together. Stop getting angry over small unrelated things and tell him what is really bothering you. January 20, 2012, 2:04 pm. I try to suggest fun things to do but its as if he doesnt feel like doing them. I love entertaining, but I want folks to leave at the end of the night. Isnt that the point of waiting to move in with someone? Also, make plans with friends. my husband and i dont sit down and interrogate each other. All I will say is that I could not be with this man. In fact, this couple isnt married, so they arent even her in-laws. In this situation, with a fairly long commute, this guy is devoting if not the entire weekend to seeing his parents, then at least a huge chunk of it. You also mention a somewhat imbalanced division of finances did you discuss that before moving in? He told you hedoesnt want to spend Christmas with your family. I dont think that is healthy. Id never visit my parents alone while he was in town, but sometimes wed go there for coffee and a meal. If the LW has just been going every weekend without their being discussion, then that has to stop now. Things are generally going well, but the one thing that I cant get past is how much time we spend with his family. I think the commenters who speak of the bf feeling settled and not having to date any more are correct. Self-reflection should always come first when we want to repair relationships with others, especially important people. You might even consider scheduling family holidays to spend time with He knows this because its important to me so I talk about it. I would probably always choose vegging at my parents house over mine, or even my boyfriends. January 20, 2012, 3:04 pm. On top of that, he got sisters who also constantly texts him and hangs out with them a lot as well. I see people post or check in or what ever and I have no idea what it means. I do think that the way the boyfriend and his parents are trying to make the LW feel guilty for wanting to spend time away from the boyfriends parents is a red flag. If you dont find the info you need in this column, please visit the Dear Wendy archives or the forums (you can even start your own thread), do a search in the search bar, or submit a question for advice at wendy(AT)dearwendy.com. WebOn one level he wants to be the good husband and provide for you and make you safe and enjoy happy and fulfilling moments with you. January 20, 2012, 11:26 am. Not to say that this stuff goes away altogether, just that it can decrease in frequency, sometimes dramatically. As your history with him has shown, he likes spending Now, if ever, is a time when sitting at home binging on a favorite show on Netflix should be an acceptable and normal way to spend the weekend. He is not making her a priority & placing a lot of his focus & free time with his parents. So, instead of an adult whos ready to take on the world the result is someone with severely low self esteem that does Not seem to be able to take responsibility or make many if any decisions on their own. Say that you were thinking more along the lines of once a month. And when it comes to something as important and serious to me as moving in with someone, assumption just aint gonna cut it. ReginaRey I was saying you would know/discuss important things because you are in a relationship, without a business meeting atmosphere. The only way that this would be acceptable is if his wife is fine with this arrangement and she enjoys having quiet time to herself. a lot of people just arent that way. Why does she feel obligated to visit his parents so often? If hes not receptive, as others have said, I think you have your answer on how to proceed. Agreed. Most likely the LWs boyfriend will be fine with her going to the city instead most weekends, she just has to voice what she wants. Honestly, I think its a good thing to spend a little time apart once in a while the fact that I miss him and get excited for him to come home after a day or two away is a reminder of how much I love him and how happy I am that were living together in the first place. All Im saying is, neither ways are wrong. At first I thought it was sweet that he spent so much time with his folks (my mom died when I was 7 and my dads parental rights were terminated by the state, so I had no idea how families worked). Also, let him know that the paying for tickets to the suburbs is expensive for you, so ask if he would be willing to limit the number of times that you go to visit his parents (say once a month). 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